mistress - definition and meaning
It can be fairly said that all Master/Mistress's are Dominant. most common Dominant and will characteristically be interested in a 'relationship'. As nouns the difference between master and mistress is that master is to mean a woman involved in a committed'' extramarital relationship (an affair), often. Like every relationship there are dynamics that exist that ideally strengthen Mistress and slave are two parts of a power exchange relationship like husband/ wife, mother/d. What is it like to be a master in a master/slave BDSM relationship?.
Great Britain, once the mistress of the seas.
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Something personified as female that directs or reigns: A woman who has mastered a skill or branch of learning: Used formerly as a courtesy title when speaking to or of a woman. Chiefly British A woman schoolteacher. A woman, specifically one with great control, authority or ownership. A female partner in an extramarital relationship, generally including sexual relations.
A woman having power, authority, or ownership; a woman who exercises authority, is chief, etc.
A woman well skilled in anything, or having the mastery over it. A woman regarded with love and devotion; she who has command over one's heart; a beloved object; a sweetheart.
A woman filling the place, but without the rights, of a wife; a woman having an ongoing usually exclusive sexual relationship with a man, who may provide her with financial support in return; a concubine; a loose woman with whom one consorts habitually. A title of courtesy formerly prefixed to the name of a woman, married or unmarried, but now superseded by the contracted forms, Mrs. A married woman; a wife. The old name of the jack at bowls. To wait upon a mistress; to be courting.
Also on the doormat topic, which is closely related to two other myths that slaves need to be told what to do, and that they cannot be responsible for themselves -else why would they need someone to order them around? Owners have slaves because a slave provides something valuable to their life, and that value extends far beyond simply having someone to boss around.
I have never seen someone so lost as an Owner whose highly competent and effective slave is out of town on vacation or a business trip. Slaves are often dominant in their own right; it takes a certain amount of self-directed take-charge-ness in order to effectively serve a demanding Owner.
This is not the profile of a doormat or an irresponsible twit. Lenora is referring here to my essay regarding the differences between a slave and a submissive. See A Slave is Not a Submissive.
In this instance, though, I would say it is your experience base or lack thereof that is coloring your perception. I know that I have lived this way in the past and have no doubt I will again at some point in the future. The attributes I ascribe to slaves in contrast to submissives come not out of my imagination, but from seeing and corresponding with and talking with slaves who have those attributes in common.
The Nature of Master/slave (Owner/property) Relationships
If the couple is on the same page with their expectations, operating by the same rules, and have or develop a good relationship skill set, then they have the ingredients to create a relationship that endures.
Or not — with pretty much the same likelihood of success anyone has in forging any type of relationship. I haven't heard of anything with a shelf life of over 5 years. No relationship can guarantee longevity. It would be a mistake to assume that because the Owner is in control of decision-making, that this ensures longevity that is different from any other relationship.
Then there are those which fall apart because of dysfunctional dynamics, with ugly uncollarings or slaves doing that traumatic vote-with-feet thing. And then there are those where the people involved surmount the hurdles that come along and have a really nice relationship for a long time.
It takes work to make it work. Its distinguishing features are the decision-making and obedience and chattel factors, but the rest of it is good old meat-and-potatoes relationship stuff: Yet this is a very unbending structure in these defining particulars and the reality is that most people find this constraining in ways that they do not like.
The people who do this are those whose core needs and kinks are fed by this lifestyle. Notice I say need, not desire.