When it comes to relationships between men and women, almost everyone has an Since most romance novels and romantic comedies are pitched to female. Let's say a guy named Roger is attracted to a woman named Elaine. And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to Elaine, and, without really thinking, she says . (This is also Roger's policy regarding world hunger.). It is only after that battle is won that Shanti and Jibananda, man and wife, decide to Tagore's The Home and the World rewrites Anandamath, one may claim, of social regeneration and his essentialising of the man–woman relationship in.
The Rally[ edit ] Near the beginning of the novel, Nikhil brings his wife Bimala to a political rally in an attempt to get her to join the outside world and get in touch better with "reality.
This event not only changes her opinion of Sandip, but affects her entire outlook on her life both at home and in the outside world. Bimala's realisation[ edit ] Towards the end of the book Sandip convinces Bimala to steal from her husband, Nikhil. While in the act of stealing 6, rupees, she comes to a realisation of the terrible crime she is committing, "I could not think of my house as separate from my country: I had robbed my house, I had robbed my country. For this sin my house had ceased to be mine, my country also was estranged from me" This represents a character turning point for Bimala: While in the act of thieving, she realises that Sandip is not only corrupting and robbing the nation, but encouraging her and others to do the same.
Ultimately, she ends up giving the money to Sandip and receives unceasing praise from both Sandip and Amulya for her newly recognised sin. However, Bimala realises that she has made a mistake by stealing the money from Nikhil and attempts to have Amulya pawn off some of her jewellery to replace the money. Amulya attempts to give the box back, but Sandip steals it and gives it back himself. This event allows both Amulya and Bimala to see that Sandip is concerned only with himself, thus allowing them to break free from part of his web.
It is during this time that Bimala realises her power over Sandip by being able to easily make him jealous. Nationalism[ edit ] While the entire novel centres around the Swadeshi movement, the author of the novel is not advocating it but rather warning his audience of the dangers of such a movement.
Tagore knows that it is possible for even a seemingly peaceful movement to turn quickly into aggressive nationalism. Such a change would do the country more harm than good.
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The character named Sandip is the vivacious and ardent leader of Swadeshi. He knows that his movement has the potential to turn ugly. He fervently believes however that freedom must be achieved no matter the cost. The story tells of the Hindu Lord Krishna advising Arjuna to perform his duty as a warrior regardless of the result. Sandip's use of the Hindu epic poetry to support his movement illustrates the tendency of individuals to use religion as a basis for nationalism.
The use of excerpts from the Indian epic poem was indicative of the blending traditional elements of Indian culture with the ideals and goals of modern Indian Independence movement. As both have the potential to yield individuals claiming an unshakable fervor for their cause, this can be a rather dangerous combination, a fact clearly acknowledged by the novel's author. Nationalism is also expressed through the rejection of foreign goods, which was a part of the Swadeshi movement.
Sandip was strongly against the sale of foreign goods as Bimala stated that "Sandip laid it down that all foreign articles, together with the demon of foreign influence, must be driven out of our territory" Nikhil on the other hand felt the opposite.
He stated that in terms of banishing foreign goods from his Suskar market that he "could not do it" and he refused to "tyrannize" Bimala even pleaded with her husband to "order them to be cleared out! She also stated that banishing foreign goods "would not be tyranny for selfish gain, but for the sake of the country" Tradition vs modernism[ edit ] As the title suggests, a major theme is the relationship of the home with the outside world.
Nikhil enjoys the modern, western goods and clothing and lavishes Bimala with them.
However, Bimala, in the Hindu tradition, never goes outside of the house complex. Her world is a clash of western and traditional Indian life.
She enjoys the modern things that Nikhil brings to her, but when Sandip comes and speaks of nationalism with such fire, she sees these things as a threat to her way of life.
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Bimala's struggle is with identity. She is part of the country, but only knows the home and her home is a mix of cultures. She is torn between supporting the ideal of a country that she knows she should love, or working toward ensuring that her home, her whole world, is free from strife and supporting her husband like a traditional Indian woman should.
Bimala is forced to try to understand how her traditional life can mix with a modern world and not be undermined. This theme ties in with the nationalism theme because it is another way that Tagore is warning against the possibility that nationalism can do more harm than good. Nikhil[ edit ] Nikhil and Sandip have extremely different views for the growth of the nation.
Nikhil demonstrates these beliefs in marrying Bimala, a woman considered "unattractive" as a result of her dark skin color. In the novel, Nikhil talks about disliking an intensely patriotic nation, "Use force?
Can force prevail against Truth? On the other hand, Sandip has contrasting views for the growth of the nation believing in power and force, "My country does not become mine simply because it is the country of my birth.
It becomes mine on the day when I am able to win it by force". Unfortunately for Nikhil, he has already tried to show Bimala the outside world, and stir some sort of emotion within her since the beginning of the novel, and failed. Sandip possesses great oratory skill that wins Bimala over simply because of his passion and ferocity, something that her husband may lack. Illusions[ edit ] The constant forming of illusions in the novel grows to be a major recurring theme. Sandip tends to create illusions that almost always have negative effects on his followers and on the nation of Bengal.
He builds an illusion of his beliefs that sucks the people of Bengal into a sort of cult. His illusion is complete sovereignty, free of all other worlds, and an endless supply of wealth and self enjoyment.
This illusion, as many are, is a fake and a lie. It ultimately sells these people a front row ticket to watch their nation fall into complete chaos and civil war between people with different beliefs.
He constructs an illusion for Bimala to believe, saying she is the future, women are the future, they are the chosen path to salvation. Bimala builds an illusion that she is to blame for this war, it is solely her doing. That she has done all wrong and no right. Let's say a guy named Roger is attracted to a woman named Elaine. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.
And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to Elaine, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: To Elaine, it seems like a veryloud silence. She thinks to herself: Geez, I wonder if it bothers him that I said that.
Maybe he's been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't want, or isn't sure of. And Roger is thinking: And Elaine is thinking: But, hey, I'm not so sure I want this kind of relationship, either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I'd have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving steadily toward I mean, where are we going?
Are we just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we heading toward marriage?
Toward a lifetime together? Am I ready for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person? And Roger is thinking February when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer's, which means I am way over due for an oil change here.
I can see it on his face. Maybe I'm reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed -- even before I sensed it -- that I was feeling some reservations.
Yes, I bet that's it. That's why he's so reluctant to say anything about his own feelings. He's afraid of being rejected. And I'm gonna have them look at the transmission again.
I don't care what those morons say, it's still not shifting right. And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time.
And I don't blame him. I'd be angry, too. God, I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can't help the way I feel. I'm just not sure. They'll probably say it's only a day warranty. That's exactly what they're gonna say, the scumballs. Maybe I'm just too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I'm sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me.
A person who is in pain because of my school girl romantic fantasy.