TL;DR: Based on my experiences, I think an ENFJ is the most ideal match out of the three options. But to be fair, relationships can work with any personality type. The ESTP-ESTJ relationship has 3 preference similarities and 1 preference difference. Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality. When it comes to dating and relationships, we all want to find someone Thinking, Perceiving) type will be super compatible with ESTJ (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging) are most compatible with ESTP (Extroverted.
In times of crises, both partners tend to over-worry or think up worst case scenarios, which is unproductive and sometimes cause destructive conflict between the couple. In such cases, they may lack the future looking vision that will help them through the crisis. Thinking-Thinking Joys Both parties enjoy the straightforward and frank communication styles; no emotional issues is brought into discussion and decision making. As such, both find it easy to communicate with each other; they won't have to try to cushion their message or filter it; but can afford to be direct without being afraid of offending the other party.
In decision-making, both parties use a logical, objective analysis to access pros and cons. This same mode of decision-making will mean that they are less likely to come into conflict.
ESTJ and ESTP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships - Personality Growth
Struggles While both are logical with one another, sometimes some romance and affection can liven up the relationship; both parties may have issues showing it. Because both use a logical and objective process in decision-making, they may have a blind spot in considering their personal values.
Under stress, they may have an issue controlling their own emotions; sometimes this can lead to highly intense fights that are destructive. Judging-Perceiving Joys Judgers enjoy making decisions for the relationship while Perceivers are happy just to let Judgers do so. Perceivers are happy to go with the flow according to the Judger's opinions, and they are generally okay with most casual decisions. Because of their organized and scheduled nature, Judgers bring a stability and order to the otherwise messy and spontaneous lives of Perceivers - something that the Perceivers greatly appreciate.
Perceivers, on the other hand, help Judgers to lighten up and see the fun side of life, bidding them to be less serious and uptight about everything - something that the Judgers know they need a reminder of.
Struggles However, Judgers find Perceivers to be too passive and casual with their indecisiveness - Sometimes this gets on the nerves of Judgers. Judgers find that Perceivers care little about household organization, something which they value highly. Perceivers are likely to mess up the house because they don't like to keep things neat and orderly at least in the Judger's eyes - this of course drives Judgers crazy.
Judgers may also find the Perceiver's lack of planning and scheduling to be irritating; they may try to organize the Perceiver's life as a result - this of course, is a mistake and something that Perceivers do not always appreciate.
They tend to believe that actions speak louder than words, and so don't understand the need to say things which should be obvious. The best gift that the ESTP partner can give to their Feeling mate is often the expression of their love.
How did we arrive at this? Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. The ESTP's goal with regards to parenthood is usually not structured or organized. They tend to take things as they come, and teach their kids what seems appropriate when situations occur.
The ESTP is enthusiastic about both teaching their children and learning from them. They're likely to value their kids as individuals, and allow them to have their own voices in the family unit. The ESTP doesn't believe that they have all the answers. They believe that many things in life have no obvious answer.
They tend to be very down to earth individuals who do not believe that they're better than others, or that they have some great voice of authority within them.
Therefore, they're likely to be their children's friend and companion more than a disciplinary guide. However, the ESTP will not have a problem with issuing punishment and discipline when necessary.
But, the ESTP has such easy-going ways that they're not likely to see the need for discipline as frequently as some other types do.
This may be a point of contention between the ESTP and their mate.
ESTJ and ESTP – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
Highly practical and quick-acting, the ESTP is excellent to have around in an emergency. They're tuned in to everyday needs, and are likely to be good providers of practical care.ESTJ vs ESTP - Guardian vs Warrior - MBTI Analysis
They will not be overly expressive of their feelings for their children, and may be gruff and unnatural when expressing love. In general, ESTPs are enthusiastic parents who usually form strong bonds of friendship with their offspring. They have excellent skills of observation, and know how to act appropriately with all types of people. Consequently, the ESTP can get along with just about any personality type.
The ESTP is not likely to choose to be around all of the personality types.