Husbands and wives have an especially strong influence upon each other. Marriage means that they grow toward each other more and more. It means being. The Scriptures clearly give us the model for being a man, a husband, and father. Providing for your wife also means taking the initiative in helping meet her We exist to help you succeed in the three most important relationships in life. God . For the attainment of this goal, both the husband and the wife need a certain a husband and wife, between friends, or whoever is involved in a relationship of.
You will then clearly be able to see everything that is happening within you. With such a clear vision it is possible to form a true relationship. For example, a husband may think of something without saying a word about it. Yet somehow his wife is aware of it. He thinks of something and his wife says the same thing, or he wishes to do something and his wife suddenly expresses the same wish. Why is there no real love in married life?
What causes the conflicts and the friction? There is a serious lack of understanding between the husband and wife. For the development of a true relationship to take place, a basic understanding of human nature, the nature of men and women, is essential. Men are mostly intellectually centred, while women tend to be more emotional. They dwell in two different centers, along two parallel lines. No real meeting takes place within them. How, then, can there be any love between the two?
The love between a married couple is usually only skin deep. When you listen to your partner, he or she should be able to feel that you are genuinely interested and that you would sincerely like to help.
Your partner should feel your care and concern, your respect and admiration. An open acceptance of the other is needed, and there should be no reservations. If she has the right attitude, the family life will become peaceful. If both the husband and wife are obstinate and unyielding in nature, both should try to correct each other by cultivating and developing patience and forgiveness in themselves.
Always try to recognise and admire the good qualities in each other. Whatever your weaknesses may be, they should remain a secret between the two of you. You should work out your problems together with a positive attitude, without provoking or hurting each other with accusations.
First of all, we should become aware of our own weaknesses, because this is the best way to remove them.
When you are pointing out a weakness, do so lovingly and with every intention of eradicating it in a positive way from your lives.
These weaknesses are blocks that prevent you from expressing yourselves fully. The third form of female sexual impotence is often unjustly called frigidity. It characterizes wives who, although they desire intercourse, seldom if ever reach climax. This kind of incapability for total sexual satisfaction is more rightly called inorgasm.
It may reflect the initial clumsiness of the husband or it may be the result of emotional restraint due to feelings of shame. In the last few years it has been discovered that many wives never reach sexual climax. Although organic defects may cause inorgasm, most of these women are normally healthy in every respect and are not inhibited by sexual intercourse.
A common misconception is that every wife who does not obtain the same satisfaction as her husband in sexual intercourse is disturbed and unhappy in her marriage. On the contrary, such wives often feel completely happy and are normal and healthy in every respect Wijngaarden.
It is good to point this out because in our sexualized society, overemphasis on satisfaction might force many women to feel they are abnormal when they are completely normal even though they experience sexual love differently than some other women do. Inorgasm need not cast a shadow on marriage. On the contrary, to the wife who loves, a merely physical satisfaction is secondary. The most important thing is that she receives her husband in love, feels secure with him, and shows him her love with her whole life.
This is not to say that physical satisfaction is denied such a woman. But she experiences it in a different, more indirect way. It is very important for a husband and wife at the beginning of their marriage to discuss openly their experiences and feelings.
This can be a profound relief and can lead to deeper mutual understanding and a closer relationship in physical-spiritual love. If sexual intercourse is not controlled by love, if it is not embedded in the total loving communion between husband and wife, it can lead to sexual anarchy.
If a couple's daily life shows no love, if they bicker more than they seem to accept each other, the basis for healthy sexual intercourse is destroyed. In such a relationship intercourse has little to do with love. If the wife is not very complaisant in such situations, the husband should not complain, for their relationship has already been fundamentally disturbed. To force sexual intercourse under such circumstances is to violate its meaning.
Intercourse is only possible in the complete surrender of love. No, we are not dreaming about perfect marriages without spot or blemish. Periods of estrangement can occur in the best marriages, but they will have immediate sexual repercussions. The interactions between all areas of a couple's life remains.
Everything already mentioned about the communion of marriage, about the struggle to keep and to deepen it, is of direct importance for sexual relations. They cannot be separated from the spiritual climate in which the entire marriage exists.
Paul points this out in I Corinthians 7: Each needs the other. Bringing forth children is not mentioned as a goal here. The point here is that each has to be available to the other because of love.
It is remarkable that husband and wife are equal in this respect. It is said of the one as well as of the other.
Each should be available to the other, he to her, she to him. They must not withhold their bodies from each other. The rule in marriage is: Only with mutual consent may a couple abstain from sexual intercourse for a time in order that they may devote themselves to prayer. The longing for communion with God may be sought in prayer. It may not be threatened or repressed by the physical expressions of love between a husband and wife.Husband and Wife relationship - Hindi short-film - One Condition - Sarcastic Studio
The "earthly" affairs of marriage I Cor. Paul puts husband and wife in their place: Love God above all in marriage, and each other as yourself. Paul also warns against enslavement to sex.
It may not become allimportant. Abstinence is permissible and of great spiritual benefit if it has the consent of both partners and is for a short duration.
Similarly we read in I Peter 3: I Peter 3 reiterates I Corinthians 7. We also read in I Peter 3 that a couple's relationship with God must not be impeded by a husband's unwise, harsh, and loveless behavior towards his wife. This, of course, counts for all of married life. However, when the wife is called the weaker vessel, the sexual relationship between the couple is meant particularly. The Jews call the wife the vessel of which the husband availed himself.
Against fornication, I Thessalonians 4: Thus the Gospel regulates relations between husband and wife. A husband may not regard his wife as his possession. He must treat her with insight and due respect, that is, with love. The wife is weaker physically; she needs help and protection. Besides, a husband must not forget that his wife is a co-heir of life in Christ.
Therefore, she is much more than a mere sexual being.
If husbands do not accept and relate to their wives lovingly, their prayers will be hindered. If husband and wife fail to relate to each other properly, their communion with God is in danger. Prayer may not be pushed out of the way because of the couple's absorption with their sexual relations. What Paul says of all God's gifts applies here as well. We may enjoy His gifts with thanksgiving but they may not enslave us. Compare this with I Corinthians 6: Thus, in a nutshell, the Bible gives us a deep insight into the sexual relationship within a marriage.
A couple must associate wisely and lovingly with each other. One may not withhold himself from the other unless temporarily and with mutual consent; moreover, they must then direct all their energiesto communion with God in prayer.
Marriage in Honor - The relationship between husband and wife - Dr. W.G. de Vries, SpindleWorks
One's inclination is to ask "Who is capable of such an allencompassing, self-denying union? Only in communion with God and through power granted by Himis such love possible. Only a Christian marriage can be a successful one in the full sense of the word, and this holds true for the sexual relationship too. Marriage and the blessing of children We may call the birth of children a direct blessing of the Lord. Already at the beginning of Holy Scripture we read: And God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply'" Gen.
As we noted earlier, the words to bless mean to broaden, to widen, to spread out. To bless is to bring something to its full development.
God's blessing means that He makes life reach full bloom and grants it its fullest development. That applies to all of human life, including married life. Children are a blessing of God. Psalm calls them "a heritage from the Lord. In Israel especially, people realized the great significance of receiving children. They saw the Lord's hand in this, opening the wombs of women Gen. A struggle flared in Jacob's tent between his two wives, a struggle about children fought with every conceivable human weapon.
In his answer Jacob related the receiving of children directly to God: About Hannah we read: The longing for children was great in Israel. People looked to the Lord who can open and close the womb, hoping to see the birth of the future Messiah. This wish, foremost in the minds of pious Israelites was unlike the motives of Rachel and Leah who wanted to bind their husband to themselves through children.
Pious Israelites lived on through their children. Through offspring, every Israelite wanted to witness the great day of the Messiah. For this reason they sang about children being an inheritance of the Lord. Psalm strongly emphasizes the direct action and work of the Lord as He personally involves Himself in people's lives. If His hand of blessing does not open itself, all human toiling and vigilance is in vain.
Man lives because of the Lord's intervention and protection. He who desires children should know that he lives in the presence of the Lord. The one who receives many children has no reason to boast, for as Psalm states, they are free gifts of the Lord. Parents of a large family may not think themselves better than those with few children. Free gifts do not entitle them to certificates of faithfulness and courage. Children are an inheritance.
One does not work for an inheritance, and hunting for it is futile. Psalm wants to teach us this, which has been fulfilled in the Words of Christ Psalm NASB confesses: Even before man exists. God's eye watches over him and the Spirit of God determines his whole life. Indeed, he is the product of God's own hands, the wonderful handiwork of His fingers. In this context children must be received into a marriage and thankfully accepted as free gifts of God.
Much has been written discussing the primary goal of marriage. Is that goal the communion of love between husband and wife or is it the receiving of children? The communion of love between husband and wife seeks a child.
That is not to say that a marriage without children is not complete or has missed its goal; definitely not. It has been justly remarked, however, that if marriage is a matter of the mutual molding of husband and wife, they will wish to receive children.
Spiritual relationship between husband and wife - Amma, Mata Amritanandamayi Devi
The couple who decide not to have children for reasons not valid before the Lord are not married despite their physical union as husband and wife.
As they refuse children, their marriage will fall prey to sterile stagnation because love and the desire for parenthood are inseparable. Certainly the urge for complete sexual union cannot be regarded as simply a biological urge to reproduce. When mutual love between husband and wife seeks its deepest and most intensive expression in complete surrender to each other, the conscious wish for children does not always predominate.
No, each is seeking the other according to God's ordinance that "it is not good that man should be alone. This is how Paul speaks of marriage in I Corinthians 7. Yet, although the child is not the exclusive aim of the love between a husband and wife, it surely is the result of it and the blessing on it.
In- all of this the feelings of husband and wife differ somewhat. The wife may have a strong, instinctive longing for a child; however, it must not become all-important for her. If the desire for motherhood pushes her love for her husband into the background, their love will be marred.
Should a wife want a child in order to bind her husband to herself, as Rachel and Leah did, her egotistical motives have little to do with love or motherhood. Her actions sink to the level of power-play. This applies, too, to women who think they are entitled to have a child even though they are not married. The husband's longing for a child is much less instinctive by nature; rather, it is determined by spiritual or culturalsocial factors.
Think of the son and heir! But again, that thought must not be predominant. A husband must desire intercourse with his wife because he loves her. Only then can their child be received rightly, as a blessing of God bestowed on the two-oneness of marriage. All other motives fall short of the essence of sexual intercourse as God intended it. We may not, for reasons outside the marriage itself, encourage or restrict procreation. What I refer to now are motives which involve creating power through numbers-for example, wanting to increase church size or calculating that our national defence should be so large in so many years.
We may not make ourselves physically strong through our children for if we try to do so, we will no longer see that children are an inheritance, a free gift of the Lord. Yet the following questions could be asked: Doesn't the form for the solemnization of marriage say that through marriage the human race is propagated? Doesn't that mean church and nation? Church-going mothers bear their children for the Jerusalem above, don't they?
Isn't it true that in a multitude of subjects lies the King's glory? In His grace, God works through the generations, but only in His grace. As soon as God's people glory in blood and race and country, He replies: As a rule He uses that line and blood ties sovereignly and mercifully.
We and our children would perish in our haughtiness if we were to take this for granted or if we were to say in self-conceit: Often newlywed young people wish to wait several years before having children so they can enjoy each other alone for a while.
But their waiting injures the very essence of marriage. Experts point out that many couples who start this way lessen their fertility and are later unable to have children when it suits them. Such people think that they can take their lives into their own hands. Haughtily, they no longer acknowledge that children are a free gift from the God of all flesh.
Young people who call themselves happy in their marriage will heartily desire God's blessing on their happiness. A child is the crown of their married life. Oh, the joy of parenthood, the wonderful experience of being a mother or father for the first time! Indeed, in the words of Psalmit is a reward! Who would dare make derogatory remarks or laugh about a couple who have their children close together?
Doesn't childbearing belong to the time of full bloom in life? As protector, the husband has various rights and obligations that he is expected to fulfill and thus is offered opportunities different from that of his wife or wives, not only in legal and economical affairs of the family but within the family as well.
As in most cases in Islam law and culture, everything is being related to the Qur'an. Many Muslims may agree on a perfectly equal relationship. Although some religions, such as Catholicism for instance, puts a cap on polygamy all together, or even serial monogamy, allowing one spouse until death does them apart, not even accepting divorce. According to the teachings of Islam a Muslim man should have a valid reason and have to get permission from his existing wife without any force if he requires to marry again.
Islam vehemently abhors any intimate relationship outside the bond of marriage. There is no external sign to show his status as a husband, unless he adopted the tradition of wearing a wedding ring.
Marriage in Hinduism A Hindu husband traditionally takes his wife to his home. He is expected to provide for her and to prove his abilities to do so. Before there was no divorce allowed in Hindu marriage. In modern times once again afterequal rights for women through society and law jurisdiction is given.